This updated guide lists ten practical points many women wish men understood: help with menstrual products, acknowledge grooming effort, prioritize consent and safety in sex, accept normal body functions, be considerate in shared spaces, avoid dismissive excuses, offer sincere reassurance about appearance, empathize with mood changes, respect privacy when she shares personal details with friends, and communicate about desire. The core advice is clear: small considerate acts and open communication improve relationships.
A short, practical guide
Here are ten straightforward things many women wish men understood. They're about respect, communication, and small practical habits that make relationships smoother.
1. Menstrual products are normal - offer help
If your partner asks you to pick up tampons, pads, or a menstrual cup, do it. These items are hygienic and safe to handle; buying them doesn't affect your masculinity. Note that not everyone who menstruates identifies as a woman.
2. Grooming takes effort
Looking "put together" often requires time and work. Shaving, styling, and makeup are choices that take effort. Don't expect that same level of maintenance every minute of every day.
3. Respect boundaries and safety during sex
If something goes wrong during sex, stop, check in, and communicate. Jokes like "wrong hole" aren't helpful. Consent and safety matter more than humor in those moments.
4. Everyone passes gas
Passing gas is a normal bodily function for all people. Treat it as normal, not a moral failing or a source of ridicule.
5. Be considerate in shared spaces
If you leave something behind in a shared bathroom or otherwise inconvenience your partner, remove it promptly. Small attentions like this matter.
6. Don't dismiss her feelings with "it's a guy thing"
Using a blanket excuse when she's upset - especially about attention you gave another person - generally won't help. Focus on the person you're with and be willing to listen.
7. Reassurance about appearance helps
Many people feel insecure sometimes. Sincere, specific compliments about what you find attractive can reduce repeat questions and improve confidence.
8. Hormones can affect mood - be empathetic, not dismissive
Hormonal cycles, menopause, and other biological factors can influence mood. That doesn't mean concerns are invalid. Listen, be patient, and ask how you can help.
9. Personal stories get shared with close friends
People often process relationship issues with trusted friends. Respect privacy and assume some details may be discussed among her close circle unless she asks otherwise.
10. Desire and arousal vary - communicate
Not everyone becomes ready for sex on cue. Sexual desire can depend on emotional connection, stress, sleep, health, and time. Ask, communicate, and invest in foreplay and connection.
Bottom line
Small acts of consideration, clear communication, and basic respect go a long way. Ask questions, listen, and be willing to learn.